Crystal Solstice Message
As the solstice approached, I started to feel into the energy of the coming year. What I was sensing was that 2025 would be about boundaries. It is fitting that the solstice brought this message, seeing as the day itself is the boundary between fall and winter.
Our limits
As social beings, boundaries are important to us—and many of us struggle with setting healthy ones. The biggest challenge is discovering our limits—how thin can we spread our time and energy; how much time can we be with family before getting sucked into the drama; how much abuse can we endure from the people we work with before we snap back; how long can we go without eating before we get hangry; how much sleep do we need so that we can function.
Even when we are very clear about what it is we want and need, expressing those needs to others often does not come easily. We might not be any better at allowing others to set boundaries with us, without taking it personally. Overdoing the boundaries is not any better. Putting up too many walls could mean denying ourselves deeper, intimate relationships.
Boundaries for Empaths
I’ve been struggling with boundaries since long before people started having conversations about them. As an empath, I found it extra challenging. Especially before I knew what an empath was. Even after I started to become aware of that “extra” sense, my feelings often got confused with others. If I couldn’t perceive the boundaries, how could I set them.
That was only part of it. Spiritual leaders were telling sensitive people to continuously clear the energies of others by putting up shields of pink, gold or white light, use protective crystal grids, wear talismans and amulets, and say mantras blessings and affirmations. At the same time we were advised to open our hearts. It felt very much like a contradiction. Because truly opening the heart means taking down walls—not putting them up.
Dissolving boundaries
The whole experience of being an empath means the dissolving of boundaries. The mixed messages served only to create self doubt and that kept me frozen and unable to make the simplest decisions. I can’t help but wonder that with all that we know about setting up healthy boundaries, why are so many of us still having issues with them.
With the energy of this time and a message from the crystals, an idea that’s been at times complicated and confusing is starting to feel a little clearer and a little simpler.
Shining fully
I was shown how the sun does not block her light to shade us from her intense heat. The moon does not lessen her pull on the waters to keep from flooding structures too close to the shore. Because holding back their power to protect us, also deprives us of their benefits: their warmth, nutrients, light, and the gift of the seasons.
They show us how to let ourselves shine in our full power—always at full power—not holding anything back. Because if we restrict even part of ourselves, we block our gifts as well. Giving of ourselves so completely puts us in synchronicity. It means being fully open to receive the gifts that flow in to us.
The truth
This message inspires me to focus less on setting boundaries and more on being more truthful—not just with the people in my life—but with myself. In fact, perhaps I need to relax or release some of the lines I’ve drawn around myself and turn the power switch to full.
Holding nothing back
Crystals, like the sun and the moon, don’t hold anything back. They can be invaluable allies as learn to open ourselves up.
We can begin with Novaculite or Obsidian. Selenite can shine light on our resistance. Rose coloured crystals can help us to see ourselves in a loving way. But any crystal can potentially make this journey with us.